Dear Dr. Janie,
I’m a 68-year-old woman, and lately, a lot of my friends have been encouraging me to get a vibrator. I don’t really understand why—I have a partner, and we have sex a couple of times a month, which is generally satisfying. Is a vibrator really necessary? What’s your take on this?
Sincerely, Vibrator Perplexed
Dear Vibrator Perplexed,
This is a wonderful question, and you’re not alone in wondering about it. Many women (and men) assume vibrators are only for people without partners. Some men even experience “vibrator replacement fear,” worrying they might be sidelined if their partner starts using one. It’s time to debunk these myths. Vibrators are not just about pleasure—they’re about health, vitality, and self-care.
Think of a vibrator as a wellness tool, much like a water aerobics class or a treadmill or a personal trainer for your nether regions. It’s not just for the bedroom; vibrators bring health benefits that enhance your overall quality of life.
Let me give you 5 reasons why so many women swear by them.
1. Keeps Your Vagina in Tip-Top Shape
As we age, our bodies change, and the vagina is no exception. Lower estrogen levels can cause the tissues to constrict and the vagina to shorten, narrow, and lose elasticity. Regular stimulation with a vibrator increases blood flow to the vaginal area and can help reduce, or even prevent, these changes. Also, when you are aroused the vaginal lining produces moisture, helping to keep your vaginal tissues healthy, toned, and elastic. It’s like yoga for your most intimate muscles—gentle yet effective.
2. A Natural Stressbuster
Life can be stressful, and vibrators are surprisingly effective at taking the edge off. Clitoral stimulation triggers the release of feel-good hormones like endorphins and oxytocin, which can improve your mood, reduce anxiety, and boost overall happiness. It’s like a mini mental health retreat that fits in your nightstand.
3. The Key to Better Sleep
Having trouble falling asleep? A vibrator might be your new bedtime routine. Research shows that orgasms can help you relax and fall asleep faster. In fact, over half of participants in one study reported improved sleep quality after solo sessions with a vibrator and 47% said they fell asleep faster. A good night’s rest makes for brighter mornings and more energy to enjoy your day.
4. Better Bladder Control (and More Intense Orgasms)
Orgasms naturally contract and relax the pelvic muscles, giving them a workout without the need for boring exercises like Kegels. The muscles for an orgasm are the same muscles involved in maintaining bladder control. Stronger pelvic muscles mean better bladder control, which is a huge win as we age. Oh, and an added bonus: a stronger pelvic floor also means more intense orgasms. Talk about a two-for-one benefit!
5. A Boost for Your Sex Life
Vibrators aren’t about replacing your partner—they’re about discovering what makes you feel good and sharing that knowledge. A study of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University found that less than 20% of women reach orgasm from intercourse alone. The study found the necessary ingredient was clitoral stimulation which is exactly what most vibrators are designed to do. By exploring your body with a vibrator, you can uncover exciting pleasure points you never even knew existed. You then can share your discovery of new sexual sensations with your partner resulting in enhanced intimacy and a richer, more satisfying connection.
So, why a vibrator? It’s simple: improved vaginal health, better sleep, less stress, a stronger pelvic floor, increased bladder control, and a more fulfilling sex life. Think of it as an investment in yourself and a healthy, happy you!
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Disclaimer: The advice provided in this column is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to replace professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the guidance of a licensed medical professional for any health-related concerns or questions.
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